I became acquainted with this widower (and wife that is late just as an observer some 14 years back. Their spouse passed 2.5 years back and right after he started to mostly come to dances attended by seniors. In the last 12 months plus some months, we expanded to have ” this crush” we more frequently danced together on him as. He talked of their spouse and just how he wasn’t certain if he could ever love anyone again- that she had been the love of their life and misses her a great deal. The 2009 September, after me being the receiver of some good remarks from him, he asked if I wish to venture out to some other party in the week-end, saying he discovered me personally to be really appealing and wished to become personally familiar with me more. My heart had been going to burst….my fantasy had been coming to fruition……on our first outing (picking me up- dance and then dinner) he stated he desired to ensure it is specific if we go out and he pays my way/buys dinner…etc that he expected nothing in return. Which he wants to keep things upfront and that he feels honesty is the best way that he is not into wanting friends with benefits and. With that he additionally stated which he does see other women…again buddies without advantages.